Peacemaker; a person who brings about peace, especially by reconciling adversaries. That’s the first definition when you search the word in Google. You’ll continue to see other definitions: those who seek to stop arguing and fighting; to help those struggling settle disputes; the individuals who negotiate for treaties during times of war. And then we reach the biblical definition within the Beatitudes: “Blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called the children of God (Matthew 5:9).” Those who work to make peace, will be known as the children of God. That’s quite the accolade. Through this verse, we glean insight on how God wishes for us to view peace. We need to be makers and creators of peace. To have that be a constant mindset and goal in our actions. How can the actions we take throughout our day be done with peace in mind? How can I strive to be more cognizant in my interactions and through betterment, get closer to that tranquility and essence of Christ’s teachings?
As someone who struggles with OCD, and always has extraneous thoughts and feelings about what people think and how I can pop off in the heat of the moment, the first thing to remember is to breathe. When you are in a conversation or a moment of conflict, reflect before you speak. Are the words I’m about to say reflect Christ’s message? Am I about to say something that is more hurtful than helpful? If you even need to ask these questions, then step back, breathe, and only come back to the conversations when you are ready to engage with the proper mindset. Pray, reflect, but also don’t let too much time pass, allowing any issues to potentially spread. Be efficient with your words, and listen more than you speak.
When you are in a situation where you are trying to gain understanding, be more cognizant. Put yourself in the other person’s shoes and make sure the words you say reflect with absolute honesty and sincerity that you are there to support the person and to resolve the conflict. A lot of issues could be resolved if people took the time to meet each other with empathy. Remember, we are supposed to go against the flow of the world and not conform to it. So, do that by having empathy in your discussions.
Once you have practiced being more cognizant and empathetic, just keep going. Be aware of the words you say and how they can be reignited to spread light and peace. Soon enough, your words and actions will evolve. You’ll be able to teach the tools of peacemaking you learn to those around you and be able to share the message of Christ through your life.